Women On Top Sex Positions
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One of the things that men often don't understand about sex is that reaching orgasm may not be as crucial for a woman as it is for her partner.
There are plenty of ways in which women get satisfaction from sex, including the feeling of being close to their partner, the sense of having him inside her, seeing him getting pleasure from reaching orgasm and ejaculating in her pussy, bringing him to orgasm with her hand or mouth, or just enjoying feeling his attention to her, and possibly his love for her.
It's a cliché that men find their love through having sex, while women want to have sex because they love a man, but there's a surprising amount of truth in it.
Sexual intercourse can open up a man to his feelings – dominance and tenderness or a sense of his masculinity during man-on-top sex, a sense of acceptance and love for his partner during woman-on-top sex, possibly feelings of male power during rear-entry sex, and maybe a gentler, more loving side of his nature during side-by-side sex… and so on.
But even though women may be driven more by what I'd call a passive attitude to sex - at least compared to a man's more active attitude to sex - there will always be times when a woman wants to be on top as a lover!
And nothing suits that role more than the variety of women in top-sex positions available to her.
A woman who feels highly sexually charged, a woman who knows she can reach orgasm during sex if she can move more freely during intercourse, a woman who wants to express her dominant side - well, all will enjoy women on top sex positions.
And no doubt there are many, many other reasons why a woman can enjoy woman on top sex:
the different physical sensations that she gets from the varying angles at which her partner's erection penetrates her body
the fact that he can reach up and fondle her breasts
the fact that it allows her to take charge and let her man relax
the fact that she can demonstrate very clearly that she is giving pleasure to him during sex
She can find a way of moving that gives him the greatest pleasure while he lies passively beneath her and lets her express her love for him and her desire to give him pleasure.
A powerful thing about the woman on the top range of techniques for intercourse is that in almost every variation, the woman can determine how fast sex proceeds.
As another way to make love, she can change the rhythm and pace of movement and get as much or as little stimulation to her clitoris or vagina as she wishes – always provided, of course, that her man doesn't have a tendency to ejaculate too quickly, or conversely doesn't experience retarded ejaculation.
And when a woman isn't pinned down by her man being on top of her, she can move her body against his so that she either gets stimulation to her G spot internally or her clitoris externally.
And all that's very nice for her, of course, but there's something else she can do: she can tease her man.
When she's on top, she can move up and down his erection quickly or slowly, she can move her hips in various ways, including in a circular pattern, and she can speed up and slow down her movements as he nears orgasm, which means she can keep him on the brink of ejaculation until she releases his tension by stimulating him over the edge and into his orgasm.
That is truly an excellent sexual technique for making love great for men and women alike.
It's hard, perhaps, for men to appreciate how powerful women in top sexual positions are for women since men are accustomed to taking most of the power and dominance in sex most of the time.
What's equally challenging for most men to appreciate is how good it can be for them to give up control, relax into the feminine warmth of their partner's embrace, and to allow her to take them to orgasm.
Indeed, for some men, it's a real struggle to give up control. If you're one of them, and you feel, for example, the need to thrust even when your partner is on top doing all the work, then make a conscious decision to give up your dominant attitude to sex and lie back and enjoy what your partner is giving you.
This can be very transformational: moving from constantly "giving" during sex to a place where you "take" pleasure more. For some men, that is very important - they have given all their lives.
And after all, sex is about equality, not male dominance, and it's certainly not about the man satisfying the woman – or rather, it shouldn't be about the man satisfying the woman.
It should be about partners satisfying and giving pleasure to each other: woman on top sex is one way this can happen.
Women on Top Sexual Positions In Pictures
So here's what we consider the primary woman in the top sex position. The woman is sitting on her man, facing him, and she can control the depth to which his penis penetrates her by moving gently - or fiercely - up and down.
By leaning either forwards or backwards, as shown in the illustrations, she can also change the sensations which both she and her man enjoy during intercourse.
And of course, as she leans further backwards or forwards, how she moves can change: instead of riding up and down her partner's erect penile shaft, she can ride him backwards and forwards along the length of his shaft - and this may be important for a man whose penis typically stands rigid and upright against his belly, because when he is laying down, it may not be comfortable if his partner sits upright with his erection inside her pussy.
Interestingly, this is a good position for men to engage in premature ejaculation control training.
When the woman is on top, she can slow down the man's headlong race to orgasm and ejaculation by slowing down her pelvic movements - in short, reducing the stimulation that his penis receives from the movement of her tight vagina around his erection. An excellent strategy for slowing up lovemaking and extending coitus.
This means that his arousal level will somewhat reduce, and his approach to the point of no return (aka the point of ejaculatory inevitability) will not be as fast or as uncontrolled.
In addition, by using PC muscle contractions, a man can reduce the hardness of his erection, which will also reduce his arousal level.
This should enable him to control his ejaculation and last longer in bed without any danger of ejaculating sooner than he or his partner wishes.
How much stimulation the man can give to her breasts, belly, and buttocks – not to mention her clitoris – depends on the angle between her body and whether she's facing away from him or towards him.
It's worth pointing out that some women might be self-conscious about the woman on top sexual posture because they see their breasts as droopy, their belly as saggy, or their buttocks as flabby.
If you're a man and your partner shows any resistance to a woman on top sex, and you think it might be for those reasons, get her to read this statement:
Men are not concerned with what a woman's body looks like when making love. When men have sex, they focus on having sex, not on the finer - or not-so-fine - points of their partner's appearance!
Having said that, of course, as a man, you'll always want to reassure your partner that you find her attractive and that her body is highly desirable.
One of the great things about a woman on top sex is that although it allows vigorous movement and thrusting by the woman, there's also plenty of opportunity for much more gentle movement and, indeed, for the couple to rest together. At the same time, his erection remains inside her vagina as she lies on top of him.
In this position, the couple can kiss, embrace and stroke each other, look into each other's eyes, and generally enjoy the pleasure of each other's bodies.
Another thought - woman on top sex is fabulous for pregnant couples, especially when both of them enjoy the sight of the swelling body of the woman.
The bump doesn't get in the way, the woman has control, especially over the penetration depth, which can be suitable for her comfort, and she can move just as much or as little as she likes. In short, of all the sex positions you can use during pregnancy, the woman on top is many people's favourite.
Here Are Some Variations of Women in Top Sex Positions
Just as in those sex positions when the man is on top, if the woman keeps her legs close together, her vagina will be much tighter, and the physical sensations she and her partner receive will correspondingly greater.
Of course, one of the dangers of a tight vagina is that it can prompt a man to ejaculate quite quickly, so it might be helpful to reserve this aspect of woman-on-top sex for the climax of your lovemaking (pun completely and utterly intended).
Of course, if a woman likes to feel her man inside her and her vagina filled with her partner's erection, this is a convenient way of doing it while also giving him great pleasure.
As the woman leans backwards, you can see that this will put more pressure on the man's penis and the lower side of her vagina.
Since not all women have the same sensitivity levels in different parts of their vaginas, this may be very pleasurable for her. Once again, the only way to know is to experiment, and what a glorious experiment it is!
In the picture below, as you can see, the woman has turned around and is facing away from the man.
As she leans towards his feet, she'll probably experience more pressure on the upper side of her vagina, which happens to be where her G spot is located.
If she then moves in a way that gives her pleasure, it's even possible that she will reach orgasm – although she may need to be very aroused before she starts her rhythm of sexual movements to achieve this.
It's also essential to make sure that the woman doesn't lean too far backwards or forwards because this may suddenly produce an uncomfortable bend in the angle of the man's erection: and, men being the kind of creatures they are, it's not unusual for them to put up with discomfort beyond the point where it's doing them some damage, and there's nothing that a man needs less than a damaged penis.
In this situation, if you're the man, be sensible and tell your partner to stop moving at the first sense you have of any discomfort.
And if you're the woman, please be aware that the man's penis can be damaged, mainly if you're riding him up and down as you squat over him, because it's not uncommon for his penis to pop out of your vagina when you are on the upward stroke. Then, if you don't respond in time, you may come crashing down on it – which can do severe damage, including penile fracture.
As with all sexual positions, don't forget the opportunity that woman on top sex gives you to play with your partner's anus, testicles, and clitoris (depending, fairly obviously, on which partner you happen to be).
A Male Opinion
As a man, one of the things I like about women on top sex is the opportunity to relax. Don't get me wrong, I do enjoy having sex in almost every position except rear entry, which for some reason, makes my penis bend uncomfortably.
It's also apparent that sex is more rewarding when I match my mood to the sexual positions we are using.
So, for example, I wouldn't want to have a session with a woman on top of sex if I felt lusty, rampant and needed to "get off". It'd suit me much better when I felt relaxed, and had less sexual urgency, perhaps when I was tired or in the early morning.
Indeed, my partner seems to know when she wants a woman on top sex – she usually climbs on board, looking at me as she does so in case I'm going to object. But she judges it so well that I rarely object!
And really, why would I? To have a loving woman trying to give me pleasure during intercourse while I lie back and "take it like a man" is lovely.
Very liberating. It gives me a different perspective on sex, where I can see that women are not just delicate creatures but have rampant sexual energy.
I guess anybody who's explored Tantric sex knows that anyway, but it was an exciting discovery for me the first time it happened. I wouldn't claim I can last longer than I can during man-on-top sex techniques.
This doesn't quite fit with the claims some experts make that man on top sex speeds up ejaculation - in my case, it seems more likely to, well, if not precisely control my orgasm, at least show me how to delay climax so that I can put in a decent sexual performance.
However, if I'm honest about it, I am a reasonably quick ejaculator anyway, so it may be that using different sex positions wouldn't make much difference in any case.
One thing I miss in woman-on-top sex is the sense of power that I get from stimulating my partner's G spot when I want to since there are times when I can make her orgasm by rubbing it with my erect cock.
No matter how much pleasure I get during woman-on-top sex, there is a missing element – the psychological element of dominance. Still, I do understand that it isn't necessary for me to feel this sensation every time we make love: allowing my partner to be on top and enjoy the ride doesn't take anything away from my masculinity, and it probably allows her to experience another aspect of her emotions that normally she doesn't feel very much.
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A Woman's Viewpoint
I've read the comments above by a man, and it's exciting because it's not my partner who wrote that.
It's interesting to read what I've always suspected, which is that men want to be dominant during sex, and they probably choose men on top sex most of the time so that they can feel dominant over their partners.
And I guess a part of that dominance is that women also go along with having sex in the man on top position rather than choosing what they want to do.
But I don't know whether that's true, and I suspect nobody does - it's probably a good research project for this website if you want to do it.
However, you asked me to talk about the advantages of women on top sex, and I'd say these were all about getting greater pleasure. It's the only position in which my clitoris gets a lot of attention!
Sometimes when my partner's laying back, friendly and relaxed, when I'm on top and having a good time, he still feels the need to do something instead of just keeping still – and, to be honest, I don't object if he is going to stimulate my clitoris because by now after several years together, he knows exactly how I like him to play with it.
Nothing is more excellent than a man knowing ways to induce a female orgasm while his penis is inside me. Whether or not he thinks it's important, I do like to climax with him inside me, not least because it fairly quickly triggers a violent and intense orgasm for him, which he tells me is the most pleasurable, he can experience.
When we have a man on top, the sex techniques I can use always seem to be much more about his pleasure.
Again, don't get me wrong, it's not that I don't like men on top sex, and I do enjoy watching him come and using those little tricks that all women have to increase the pleasure for their man (I'm talking about vaginal muscle control, playing with his testicles at the right moment, whispering dirty talk in his ear just before he comes, and even sticking a finger into his anus when he's near orgasm, which seems to drive him wild).
It's just that there's a different dynamic to a woman on top of sex: it feels like I'm allowing a sexual part of me that is not exposed nearly enough to have a chance to express itself – the wild woman gets out - and wow, does that feel good!
