Tie Someone In Bondage
How To Guide!
Tying someone up or being tied up can be a lot of fun. But if you’ve never done it before, it can be a bit daunting so here’s our guide to tying someone up for the first time.
Communicating is paramount and essential when engaging in any kinky play. Before any bondage is carried out, talk to your partner. Tell them what you want to try, what you like, what you are willing to try and what you’re not willing to try. Also, let them tell you what they like, don’t like and are willing and unwilling to try. This ensures you are both on the same page. A list of yes, no and maybe’s might help. If you’re a complete bondage novice and have never been tied up or tied someone up, then you won’t be sure on what you will feel or how you will react. So it’s essential to ensure you and your partner have a signal or safe word or phrase, which means the activity must stop immediately. Some people choose a traffic light system where ‘red’ means stop immediately, and ‘green’ means it’s safe to carry on. The goal of bondage is to have fun safely. It’s essential to stay safe, sane and keep it consensual. Also, remember communication is vital.
Very important!
Don’t ever tie ropes in a way that might stop someone’s ability to breathe or in a way that may cause them harm.
Don’t leave someone you have tied up alone.
Always keep flat-edged safety scissors nearby in case of an emergency where the restrain must be cut free.
Check areas of the skin that might be losing blood circulation very regularly. Look for whitening or bluing of the skin. If any signs or circulation loss, immediately loosen or remove the ropes. Check your partner is ok regularly and ask them to notify you if they have any pins and needles or numbing sensations.
The best rope for bondage is thick cotton or silk rope, as both materials don’t slide or move about much once tied. But this type of rope can be very costly and unless you’re willing to invest a vast amount of money into buying bondage rope it's best to go for an alternative. Solid-braid Nylon rope around 3/8″ or 7/16″ in diameter is another good, less costly option and is available from most DIY and hardware shops. Unlike some types of ropes, the knots are easy to undo even when pulled around and tightened.
Rope can be used for many purposes, so unlike other types of bondage toys, the rope is multi-purpose. It can use it to make handcuffs, make a flogger, and be used to restrain someone in many ways.
Before you tie someone up, read the safety tips below- Keep the rope loose enough for you to be able to fit two fingers between the rope and your partner's skin. The goal is to restrain, not to hurt or cut off your restrainee's circulation. If the rope is going to get damp through liquids, it’s advisable to loosen the rope even more.
Go slowly! Perhaps start by tying your partner's hands behind their back while sitting on a chair or lying on your bed. They won’t be able to see what you’re doing, which creates the perfect opportunity for you to check your phone on how to tie that tricky knot or for ideas on what to do next. Going slower can add a new kind of dimension to your kinky play.
Below are the directions for tying your kink partners' wrists together, but this technique could also be used for tying their ankles, wrists to ankles or ankles to furniture. The wrap is thick enough for it to feel excellent and seemingly comfortable. You can leave some rope dangling to pull and tug your partner around or tuck the dangling rope in and pull your partner around by pulling the wrap itself. Or anything else that you fancy.
You will need:
25 ft of rope
A partner who is willing
Blunt-edged scissors (in case of an emergency)
Instructions:
- 1. Your partner must their hands out, wrists up, with about two wrists gap between hands. Put the rope lay over the wrists with the middle of the rope roughly in between the hands. Wrap the ends around twice for five wraps.
- 2. Cross the ropes under the soon-to-be handcuffs. Bringing them back up and over on the opposite sides from where they started. (the front over the back and the back rope over the front.
- 3. Wrap the ends of the rope around, moving towards your kink partner's wrists. Stop winding once you still have a small space between the wrapped rope and the retrainees skin., You should end up with equal wraps on each side of the first crossed ropes. If things look too loose, twist each side in the same direction you wound it up to tighten it.
- 4. Lift the final loop on the left side and then tuck the rope's end through it. Repeat on the opposite side to tie everything off. Pull both ends of the rope to ensure it’s secure. Either tuck the remaining ends of the ropes if they're short enough or use them to tie your kink partner to something else.