Female Sexual Desire
Sexual desire refers to fantasies and thoughts about sex, or to the `urge' to engage in sexual activity. Such experiences typically lead to sexual arousal, although it is possible that physical signs of sexual arousal may occur first and lead to subjective feelings of desire. The frequency or intensity with which an individual likes to participate in sexual activity may be referred to as the individual's sex drive. In both females and males, sexual desire is controlled to some extent by androgen hormones in the bloodstream (the hormones, including testosterone, that are responsible for male characteristics). However, environmental and psychological factors (such as thinking about one's partner, or seeing sexy underwear) are also important. In other words, desire is influenced by a willingness to engage in sex and also by biological drive. The desire for sex differs from one individual to the next, although some individuals are clearly distressed by their excessively high or low sexual desire.
Sexual desire refers to fantasies and thoughts about sex, or to the `urge' to engage in sexual activity. Such experiences typically lead to sexual arousal, although it is possible that physical signs of sexual arousal may occur first and lead to subjective feelings of desire. The frequency or intensity with which an individual likes to participate in sexual activity may be referred to as the individual's sex drive. In both females and males, sexual desire is controlled to some extent by androgen hormones in the bloodstream (the hormones, including testosterone, that are responsible for male characteristics). However, environmental and psychological factors (such as thinking about one's partner, or seeing sexy underwear) are also important. In other words, desire is influenced by a willingness to engage in sex and also by biological drive. The desire for sex differs from one individual to the next, although some individuals are clearly distressed by their excessively high or low sexual desire.
Female Sexual Arousal
Unlike most other animals, human beings of both sexes are potentially capable of sexual arousal throughout the year, and there is therefore no human mating season. Things that precipitate human sexual arousal are commonly known as turn-ons.
Causes of human sexual arousal
The sight, smell, warmth and touch of a (potential) sexual partner Sexual foreplay
Erotic thoughts, fantasies or dreams
Presence of fetishised objects
Pornography
Erotica
Masturbation
Sexual role-playing
Voyeurism
Signs of possible human sexual arousal Among both genders
Increase in breathing rate
Increase in blood pressure
Increase in muscle tone (myotonia)
Increase in heart rate (tachycardia)
Vasocongestion of the skin ("sex flush")
Erection of the nipples (especially upon direct stimulation)
Male sexual arousal
Penile tumescence and erection
Emission of pre-ejaculatory fluid
Ascension of the testes
Tensing and thickening of the scrotum
Female sexual arousal:
Increase in breast size
Lubrication of the vagina
Vasocongestion of the vaginal walls
Clitoral tumescence and erection
More visible venous patterns across the breasts
Elevation of the uterus and stretching of the vagina
Change in shape and size of the labia majora and labia minora
Female Orgasm
What is an orgasm? An orgasm is an emotional and physical experience that occurs during a “sexual response cycle”. Before an orgasm, your body becomes increasingly excited. Breathing, heart rate and blood pressure increase. The pupils of the eyes dilate; the lips of the mouth darken, the nipples become erect, the clitoris swells, becomes hard and exposed, (much like the aroused penis). With increased excitement, the skin becomes flushed and it begins to sweat. In women, the labia, clitoris, vagina and pelvic organs enlarge in very much the same way as the aroused penis enlarges. Sometimes there is a plateau of excitement that is held for several minutes before you are about to orgasm.
Women can achieve orgasm in two ways.1.Clitorial stimulation 2.Vaginal(G spot) stimulation. The difference between a "clitoral" and "vaginal" orgasm is where you are being stimulated to achieve orgasm, not where you feel the orgasm. The clitoris has a central role in elevating feelings of sexual tension. During sexual excitement, the clitoris swells and changes position. The blood vessels through the whole pelvic area also swell, causing engorgement and creating a feeling of fullness and sexual sensitivity.
Enough stimulation of or around the clitoris and (for some women) pressure on the cervix or other sensitive areas cause pelvic fullness and body tension to build up to a peak. Orgasm is the point at which all the tension is suddenly released in a series of involuntary and pleasurable muscular contractions that may be felt in the vagina, uterus, and/or rectum. (Note that some women do experience orgasms without contractions.)
For some women, the outer third of their vagina is also very sensitive. When stimulated during intercourse or other vaginal penetration, these women can orgasm. This would be what you referred to as a vaginal orgasm — without clitoral stimulation. Sigmund Freud made a pronouncement that the "mature" woman has orgasms only when her vagina, but not her clitoris, is stimulated. This, of course, made the man's penis central to a woman's sexual satisfaction. In reality, orgasms are a very individualistic thing — there is no one correct pattern of sexual response. Whatever works, feels good, and makes you feel more alive and connected with your partner is what count.
Existence of the G-Spot
The G-spot is named after Ernst Grafenbergts discoverer who first put forth information regarding this area. Although some doubt remains as to its existence many women have felt intense pleasure by stimulating the sensitive area about 5cm/2 inches inside the vagina towards the front of the body.
The G-spot is said to be the female equivalent of the male prostate gland. Some women have even found that they ejaculate a fluid if they have an orgasm by stimulation of the G-spot, and researchers in Canada and the United States claim that the composition of the fluid is remarkably similar to the secretion of the prostate gland. There are vibrators designed for g-spot penetration, one such vibrator is the Magic Wand Vibrator by Hitachi. The magic wand G-Spotter attachment is sold separately.
The G-spot, anatomically, is the area beneath the urethral sponge. This would certainly at least partially explain its role in female ejaculation. It also sheds light on why G-spot stimulation makes some women feel like they have to pee when they really don't (though it HAS been shown that female ejaculate is NOT urine).
So, since every woman has a urethral sponge, every woman has a G-spot. The only question is whether (#1) she likes having it stimulated and (#2) whether someone has used the proper technique and sufficiently firm pressure on it so that it IS being stimulated. When surveys show that a large percentage of women claim not to enjoy/notice G-spot stimulation, I personally suspect that it is often through concern #2 rather than from concern #1. That's purely speculative, of course; I have no data to back up that assertion. But anyway, try what I'm describing with some friends of yours and see what you think.