Play With Your Food
Introducing food into your sex play is one of the easiest ways to liven things up without breaking the bank, or even bringing something unusual into the house – and that means that it can often be done at a moment’s notice, depending upon what you might have in your fridge. Go simple by using popsicles as dildos, pudding as a dipping sauce for body parts or a fresh-squeezed orange as a delightful reason to lick the moisture from your partner’s body. Or go elaborate by feeding your partner from your body – you become the plate and your partner eats aphrodisiacs from you, such as melted chocolate, pomegranate seeds, or even sushi and oysters on the half-shell! Just remember to have plenty of warm towels for cleanup when the fun is over for the night.
Engage In Remote-Controlled Lust
Getting it on with toys isn’t what it used to be. Now it’s much more fun! Remote-controlled toys used to have wires that forced you to be ‘connected’ in a way that wasn’t possible to hide. But now, there are plenty of remote-controlled gadgets that can be run by a simple switch in your partner’s pocket. If you are in a long-distance relationship, there are toys that allow you to control your partner with Bluetooth technology or through an internet connection. A good example: A small bullet that can be inserted into the proper orifice, and the vibration can be controlled via text messages sent to your mobile phone. The options are endless!
Show Off Your Assets
How often do we make sure to cover up when going out in public? That’s the law in most places, after all. But unfortunately, this usually translates to home, too – and we cover up even when we are lying in bed reading a book. Learn not to do this by walking around the house naked or in barely-there lingerie. Choose clothing that is modest but not – like a sheer, see-through top or a bra that pushes the assets to new heights. Though you might not want to wear these out in public, they can definitely turn up the sexy at home. And if you do choose to wear them in public, there are places that welcome that, such as the swinger’s club.
Down And Dirty Sex Talk
Sure, you know how to talk dirty…right? But what if the dirty talk is getting old? What if you have heard the same things over and over? It’s time to spice it up with the kind of talk that would make anyone blush and stammer. Start by going to the masters of dirty talk – porn stars! What do they have to say to their partners in crime? What are they talking about while they get banged by a room full of sexy partners? That’s what you want to say. So steal a few lines, craft them into a dialogue of fantasy, and surprise your partner with your filthy mouth.
Get Sexy With It
Who says sexting is just for teenagers? It seems like a taboo thing for adults to do, which is exactly why you should do it. Send the naughtiest texts you can to your partner, and ask them to do the same for you. Send pictures if you’re brave enough for that. Just be sure to make good on all that sexy buildup when the long day is done – and prepare for some hot sex that will make you wish sexting had been around years ago.
Run Hot And Cold
Sensation play can be one of the hottest (or coolest?) things you can do in bed. Many people think that it takes a lot of time, so they don’t bother – but the fact is that preparing for sensation play is as easy as getting a small bowl of ice cubes from the freezer and a few cups of hot tea from the kitchen. Use the ice cubes in every way you can imagine, from holding one in your mouth while going down on him, to using them to make nipples hard and sensitive, to licking the water from heated bodies. Then alternate the cold sensation with the hot, one by using the warm tea in the same places you just used the ice. Be sure to have some towels handy for drips!
Get It On With The Same Sex
Maybe you believe you are one-hundred-percent heterosexual, and you want only the opposite sex in bed with you. But that might make trying something out with the same sex even more enticing, especially if it’s something your partner wants to see. At the very least, it gives you a chance to explore a body that is just like yours, with all its mysteries and quirks. Plan out a list of things that you want to do, or things that your partner would love to see you do, and then decide which ones you definitely want to try. Anything that happens after that is something that comes in the heat of the moment. Who knows – you might find that you like it much more than you expected to.
Hit Up The Swinger’s Club
Tried everything I can between the sheets but find that something is still…well, lacking? You might want to let someone else in on the action. You can do this with a high-class swinger’s club. These clubs allow you to just watch, if that’s your thing, or just be with your own partner while others watch. Once you are comfortable, you can choose to swap with others. It’s worth a venture through the doors, no matter what you decide in the end!
Explore Virtual Reality
When virtual reality was first suggested as a way to enhance the sex life, it was usually seen as something only geeks would try, and maybe even something that involved more realistic versions of blow-up dolls. But today virtual reality is making leaps and bounds into the bedroom, including headsets that create an entirely different world around you, avatars you can create and control, and some of the sexiest “people” you have ever met in your life. Virtual reality can give you a sexy personal experience, or it can connect a couple who might want to try things like a virtual threesome. Who knew those images on a screen could be so sexy?
Give Some Road Head
Though any police officer would tell you to never do this, there is no doubt that it could be delightfully hot. This always works best if you are going down on a guy – going down on a girl while she is driving can be too tricky! Give head while driving on a clear, sparsely-travelled road, or pull over on the side of the road to do the deed. As long as you are doing it safely, with no chance of hitting anyone else, then you can have a glorious time while getting off in the fast lane.
Whip Up Some Pain
Many couples like to test their mettle during sex: How many times can they get off? How many positions can they try in one night? Here’s another one you can add to the list: How much pain can a person take and still find it pleasurable? That fine line between pleasure and pain is something that couples have explored for centuries. Figure out what your tolerance is by starting out with things like light spanking and a little nipple play, then go up from there. If you need more inspiration, go to the BDSM section of any online sex toy store and be enlightened. If you want better sex, get crazy about it! These crazy sex ideas are just the tip of the very hot iceberg. Pick one of these ideas and make a commitment to try it tonight. You will be very glad you did!
Don’t Just Watch It – Make It!
Tired of watching the same old porn? Looking for something to spice it up? Why not make your own? Making your own porn is as simple as a good camera, excellent lighting and a willing partner. Set the stage by making sure your bedroom (or couch, or floor, or wherever else you engage in the naughtiness) is perfectly clean and tidy. Get any toys you might want to use nearby, as well as lube. Decide on what you might want to do first, and then let the lust and creativity take over. Remember to use angles that show off the action – for instance, it’s much hotter if you can actually see a hard cock thrusting, as opposed to just imagining it while you watch his hips move. Once you have created your video, you can watch it together, edit it a bit, and even post it online. Or you can choose to watch it once for the thrill of it, and then delete it completely in order to preserve your privacy. The choice is yours!
Choose Porn That Makes You Blush
By this point, you have probably watched plenty of porn. You know what gets you off, and maybe you know what gets your partner off, too. But there is porn and then there is porn – the kind of porn that is so out there, so out of the norm for you, that it makes you blush. Find some of that porn tonight and use it to form the basis of a hotter-than-hot night. For instance, you’re into spanking? Go for porn that has hard-core spanking. Into blowjobs? A Bukakke video might be right up your sexy alley.
How many spankings Can You Take?
If you have ever engaged in spanking, was it just a swat or two in the heat of the moment? Take things much further with a carefully-orchestrated spanking that tests your mettle. Ask your partner to bring a paddle, belt or other implements, then prepare to be spanked until you can’t sit down on that cherry-red tush. Have a safe word to share with your partner – when you say that word, the spanking stops. Until then, try to take as much as you can, and be proud of the heat in your ass when it’s all done!
Get It On Outside
Taking your love outside can spark creative new ideas that you would have never had if you were inside on the bed. Go outside when it’s dark, so the moon is the only illumination you need. Have sex right there in the backyard, and hope the neighbours don’t come out to see what’s going on! Spice it up even more by going outside when it’s not the best of times to do so, such as during that pounding rainstorm or while the snow is coming down hard in the first blizzard of the year. Still a little shy? Do it with your clothes on, opening them up just enough to connect the two important body parts. Want to get more courageous? Go out buck naked and see how much fun you can have in the grass.
Invest In The Naughtiest Lingerie Imaginable
There’s lingerie and then there is Lingerie with a capital “L.” This kind of lingerie is the naughtiest kind. Imagine crotchless panties, bras with cut-outs for nipples, sweet teddies that have bondage gear attached, latex corsets, and even full-body suits that are designed to give a partner complete and utter control of the person inside them. Look for naughty lingerie that incorporates these things and more, and you can be sure that your sex life will take a huge leap during the time you are wearing those unmentionables.
Do Anal The Right Way
Many, many women will say that they don’t like anal sex. That’s probably because they haven’t been doing it right. Anal sex can be an incredibly fun, enjoyable, and hot experience for both partners, but you have to approach it with the right mindset: That you can never have too much lube, that the person taking the penetration should be the one leading the speed, and that time is of the essence – literally because good anal should take a good, long time. Decide that you will dedicate many hours to anal pleasure tonight, and then relax into the idea.
Orchestrate Your Personal Orgy
Want to have sex with multiple people but you don’t have the guts to go to a swinger’s club? You are definitely not alone! So make it a party for two (or just one) by making good use of every hot dildo or a penetrative sex toy you can find. Give each of them names, and then roleplay that you are fucking each and every one of them – one at a time, two at a time, or whatever else gets your juices flowing. Count on a very long night!
Listen In On The Sex Lives Of Others
Curious about how others get it on? Feel like watching porn is just too…cheesy? If you really want to know what others are doing in their bedrooms, consider a phone sex conference call. Hookups can easily be had through online sites, and soon you and some other lucky couple can be on the phone together, listening to each other go through your usual sexual paces. You might even up the ante by using something like Skype, where you can choose to keep things audio only or open up the much bigger (and possibly more exciting) world of video conferencing.
Get It On Where You Least Expect It
The element of surprise is one of the biggest things often lacking in a lacklustre sexual relationship. Bring it back by having sex where it is least expected. Bend over the washer and invite your man to give you his own spin cycle. Turn your lady on while she’s doing dishes and get soapy in a different kind of way, right there on the floor. Christen every room in the house, and then every piece of furniture – you can even make a list and work through it. Don’t forget the backyard, the deck, the porch, the backseat of the car, and the garage. A surprise “get it on” moment can work wonders for your mood and your sex life.