Bath & Shower Sex
Fun Things You Need to Try
No couple can claim to have an entire repertoire of sex techniques unless they use the bath and shower entirely. Many couples find that the deliberate intent to have sex in the bath arouses them so much that they do not need a long session of sexual foreplay. Others, however, claim that a massive orgasm in the bath is always more thrilling if they have foreplay as usual - say in the bedroom - and then transfer to the bathroom.
Sex in the bath should begin with three or four minutes spent stimulating each other with their big toes. He finds and caresses her clitoris with the ball of his toe while she seeks out his anal opening and perineum and stimulates them with her nail side. This can be a real turn-on and make a couple want sexual intercourse very quickly. This can be done in two sex positions. One, facing one another as they are, they move towards one another until the woman sits on the man's lap, impaled on his penis. He stimulates her clitoris with a finger, and she contracts and relaxes the vaginal muscle on his penis. While doing this, gently rocking backward and forwards, they orgasm during lovemaking.
Two, the man lies as straight as he can. The woman either straddles him, facing him or lies on him on her back. While he caresses her clitoris with a finger and a nipple with his other hand, she caresses his penis with her vagina by raising and lowering her buttocks slightly and instead slowly so that the water is not sent splashing over the sides of the bath onto the floor. So they come to orgasm. By the way, if she can reach down and fondle his balls, he will enjoy intense erotic pleasure. The warm water continually moves and has a very subtle caressing action on the erotic, sexually sensitive spots, which no other form of sexual foreplay caressing can imitate.
The Technique of the Shower works on quite the opposite principle. It is a helpful technique for concluding a session where the foreplay has been unusually active, and the couple is covered with sweat. When they get under the shower together, they have the spray operating and soap one another all over. When they are ready for intercourse, they can use facing sex positions or rear entry sex positions. If they are facing, they hold on to one another by the arms and lean their torsos away so that the fierce jet of water is directed onto the woman's clitoris and the topside of the base of the man's penis. Quite several couples find the action of the jet on both these spots sufficient to bring them both to climax without any movement except vaginal rim contractions by the woman or the slightest of buttock movements by the man.
In the rear-entry position, the woman leans forward, and after insertion, the man leans back with the base of his penis exposed. He parts his partner's buttock cheeks so the jet of water can be directed onto her anal opening and the base of his penis. Usually, he will have to make thrusts while the woman stimulates her clitoris until they both reach the point of no return, which they can time to do simultaneously. At the first orgasmic flush, they stay still and let the jet of water on the anus and penis rush them to the grand climax.
Properly developed, the Bath and the Shower Technique can add a new dimension to a couple's sexual experience. If you haven't tried them, don't lose too much time. You may need some practice to perfect them, but the time spent on them will not be wasted.
The Techniques of Oral Intercourse
Besides being sensitive zones in themselves, the mouth and the tongue have unique qualities as sexually arousing agents. Because the mouth and the tongue have these dual functions, oral sex is a two-way traffic. While sexually stimulating the partner's clitoris, vagina, balls, or penis, the stimulator is arousing himself /herself.
The aim of oral intercourse - fellatio or cunnilingus - is to turn both partners on sexually. Any combination of mouth and tongue with clitoris, vagina, vulva, balls, penis - can do it. These caresses can bring two people together in an intensity of sexual pleasure, which may be even greater than that produced by conventional "penis-in-the-vagina" sex!
When a man orally stimulates the clitoris and vagina of his partner, it is called cunnilingus. Cunnilingus involves sucking the clitoris with the lips, licking or flicking it with the tongue or tongue-tip, licking the vaginal ridge, sucking the labia with the mouth, and inserting the tongue in the vagina. When a woman orally stimulates the penis of her partner, it is called fellatio, and she is said to be fellating him. Fellatio involves licking and flicking the glans, penis, and penile shaft with the tongue and tongue-tip, taking the penis into the mouth, and sucking it.
When one says, "The woman licks the man's penis and takes it into her mouth and sucks it," and "The man sucks and licks the woman's clitoris," it sounds simple enough, doesn't it? But actually, fellatio and cunnilingus are quite sophisticated techniques. Taking fellatio first, let me try to give the basic outlines of the techniques.
Fellatio is not just a matter of putting the glans penis into the mouth and sucking it. Naturally, this simple activity would give the man much pleasure, but as with every other stimulating technique, the aim is to give him maximum pleasure. To provide him with the maximum pleasure, the fellator must know the sensitive areas of the penis. These are - in descending order of sensitivity - the frenulum, penis tip, coronal rim (both around the edge and in the groove under it), the base of the penis all around about an inch and a half above the root, the whole length of the underside of the shaft, and finally, the rest of the skin of the penis.
Since the frenulum, glans-penis, and coronal rim lead off the list with maximum sensitivity, if the man is uncircumcised, it is essential to draw back his foreskin as far as it will go before beginning fellatio. Otherwise, some effects will be lost because the mouth and tongue cannot directly contact the vast masses of nerves in these three closely located areas. Also, the warmth of the mouth and the saliva it contains are incredibly stimulating in their unique way.
One thing about fellatio a woman must never forget is that the head of the erect penis is susceptible; she must always take particular care not to bite or scratch it with her teeth. Should she do so, she can be sure of disaster. Nothing makes the penis more rapidly deflate than pain. A sharp nip, and within two seconds, it will be wholly limp and will take a great deal of the friendliest persuasion to get it back up again.
So the first technique of fellatio a woman might learn is to draw her lips down and under (or over) the edges of her teeth to shield the sensitive penis head from their sharpness. She should not draw them in so much that they are entirely rigid but just enough to cover them. Many men find being fellated standing up very exciting, and to do so, the woman nearly always kneels on the floor. If she does adopt this position, the woman will need cushions to kneel on. It is a good position because the frenulum is directly available to her tongue, and so is the underside of the penis. Besides, unless the man is very tall, she will not have to depress the penis very much when she takes it into her mouth. Some men find this standing position too exciting, especially if they are fellated until they ejaculate. The rising excitement can make a guy's knees quiver uncontrollably: if so, he would usually prefer to sit down, with the woman kneeling on cushions between his knees.
If fellatio is used only as a foreplay technique, and the sex session ends with the penis in the vagina, then it makes sense if the couple lies on the bed. The woman should have her face towards his face so that she can get her tongue easily onto his frenulum. It can be fascinating for her to fellate him facing away, so he gets the sight and scent of her vulva and bottom in his face! Usually, the penis can be brought up to stand at right angles with the rest of his body when he is on his back without causing any discomfort. Knowing this, a woman can adjust her fellatio position accordingly.
Most couples agree that simultaneous oral sex is as exciting as placing the penis in the vagina. One or other variations of the position known as 69 must be used to carry out this simultaneous stimulation. One variant is for the couple to lie side by side with their mouths within easy reach of each other's genitals. It is a restful position, but it has the drawback that the man is not very well placed to caress the clitoris and vagina. The most satisfactory "69" position is when the man lies on his back, and the woman crouches astride and above him. Her clitoris and vagina are then directly over his face, and her mouth is within easy reach of his cock and balls. If she wants to suck his cock, she can lift it up into her mouth, give the frenulum, penis-head, and penis rim warming up by licking them, or teasing them with a rapidly moving tongue-tip. This can be followed by some varieties of caresses, such as, for example, running her tongue around the edge of the rim, the tongue tip under the edge of the rim, licking the frenulum and penis tip with the tongue, and very, very lightly nipping or rolling the frenulum between lip-protected teeth. Blowing on the penis head and under the rim is also highly stimulating.
When the woman eventually takes the penis into her mouth, she should take as much as possible. Simultaneously sucking the penis, she must move her mouth up and down the shaft and head. Most often, the penis must be held away from his belly for this maneuver to be carried out. At the same time, she should move her hand, holding his penis up and down the part of his penis which will not go into her mouth. On the other hand, she should fondle his balls - again, very, very lightly. If his balls are not too large, she should occasionally take one or both into her mouth and suck them very gently. Most men find this extremely arousing, but good care must be taken not to nip them with the teeth or suck on them too hard. As the man's sexual arousal begins to build up, the woman will notice that his balls now and again move up towards the root of his penis, pause there for a second or two, and then move down again. When he approaches the point of no return, he will begin to breathe heavily and automatically push up and lower his pelvis rhythmically. At the same time, his balls will rise and lower more frequently, and they will not now descend so low as they did previously. This is a sign of his imminent orgasm and ejaculation.
A woman who wishes to give her man the ultimate pleasure will have no compunction about letting him ejaculate in her mouth. However, some men's semen has a distinctly acidic taste, which stings the back of the throat as it is swallowed. If a woman is not keen, for this or any other reason, to accept the semen in her mouth, as soon as his balls begin to move up, she can withdraw her mouth and finish him off with her fingers. However, if she does this, she will deprive him of some of his thrills. If the semen tastes at all, it is not a strong taste, and a drink of water - or champagne - will immediately dispel any slight stinging sensations. Indeed swallowing semen never did any woman any harm. It can't because, for the most part, it is made up of sugar and salts.
The art of cunnilingus is just as rewarding and just as subtle. If it is not to be performed simultaneously with fellatio, the woman should lie on her back, her knees drawn up and spread, the soles of her feet resting on the bed. The man places himself below her, his face over her genitals and his hands parting her labia. He begins by running around the rim of her vaginal entrance with his tongue-tip, occasionally putting his tongue into her vagina as far as it will go and moving it in and out the same way his penis would if it were there. After a few minutes, he runs the flat of his tongue up the vaginal ridge until he reaches the clitoris. Having got there, he varies his caresses between (i) licking the clitoris slowly with the flat of his tongue; (ii) teasing the clitoris-head with rapid flicks of the tongue-tip; (iii) taking the clitoris head between his lips and sucking vigorously on it; (iv) rolling the clitoris-head between his lips; (v) any other technique he may invent himself. The secret is to devote a couple of minutes or three to direct stimulation of the clitoris by one or a combination of these methods, then return to the vagina for a moment or two, and then come back to the clitoris.
When the woman comes up to the point of no return in her female sexual response cycle, she will begin to breathe heavily, and the man will lose contact with the clitoris because at this point, it draws back into its hood. He is now faced with two alternatives: either he can apply a strong suction on her clitoral area, which will make her come within a few seconds, or rapidly pull himself up onto her, slip his cock into her cunt, and with a dozen thrusts or so, bring her to orgasm, and he will ejaculate as well.
All these maneuvers, except the last, can be carried out in the "69" position, where the woman crouches over the supine man and goes down on him while simultaneously carrying out a blow job on her. The couple, who occasionally want to come with simultaneous cunnilingus and fellatio, should be able to make their climaxes coincide with a bit of practice. And that is quite an experience! Either as foreplay or as complete intercourse, oral sex is never a disappointment and, more often than not, provides a genuinely wild and deeply satisfying session of sex.