Mutual Masturbation
Masturbation need not be something that you do only when you are alone. Many people find the sight of their partner masturbating highly erotic. Masturbating with your partner can create closeness with each other. Stimulating each other's genitals is mutual masturbation. Both men and women respond well to pressure and rhythm. A steady, strong stroke will be enough to get the reaction you're looking for.
Mutual masturbation is an important part of lovemaking and many women like being masturbated to orgasm before penetration. Be aware at all times to treat each other's genitals with tenderness and sensitivity. Get to know your partner's signs when they are about to orgasm and you will become a more sensitive lover.
Basics to Mutual Masturbation
Mutual masturbation can be a fascinating sexual encounter between two, or even more, people. Sharing this with your partner can be a great way for your partner to learn how you like to be touched and stimulated. By watching my boyfriend, I have learned how he likes his penis stroked. It's a very slow and steady stroking, with a little caressing of the head of the penis as well. I have also learned that when he's about to climax, a more tighter grasp and faster stroking is necessary, but do not touch the head. Touching the head can ruin it all. He has also learned by watching me, I like my outer lips rubbed in a circular motion, as opposed to just up and down and indirect clitoral stimulation in the beginning and once I'm well aroused, direct clitoral stimulation is a must.
It can also be very visually exciting, to watch your partner receiving the ultimate pleasure. I say it's the ultimate pleasure because only your partner knows what he/she likes best. It brings out the voyeur in us and everyone is a little bit of a voyeur to some extent.
Everyone likes to put on a show at one time or another, and this is the best way to do it. There's no better way to feel sexy than pleasing yourself in front of your partner. Make a whole show of it too, get dressed up and strip for your lover, then get down and dirty with yourself. Be honest with your excitement, if what you're doing feels really good, let him/her know. Genuine excitement can be the ultimate turn-on. I love to do it when my boyfriend is driving because it's such a big tease. He so wants me, but he can't have me.........unless he pulls over to the side of the road and jumps my bones. But most of the time, I won't let him. He can't have me till we get home. What a great tease!
It's also a very exciting form of safe sex. There really isn't any exchange of dangerous bodily fluids, unless you're sharing toys. Then make sure that a new barrier is put on from one person to the next.
You don't have to worry about what to do, because your partner is doing what he/she likes, so it's a very relaxing activity, with no performance anxiety. This is also a good "ice" breaker if it's the first time you are intimate with someone. You can see each other naked and watch each other orgasm without having to touch each other. It's a great way to get to know someone intimately and see what each other likes.
If you don't know how to introduce mutual masturbation into your sex life with your partner, here are a few ideas:
You can pleasure yourself, while your lover is stimulating another part of your body.
While your lover is stimulating you, you can put your hand over his/hers and go through the motions with them and if all goes well, he/she will allow you to do it.
As you are masturbating your lover, masturbate yourself
Or discuss the issue with your lover and see if it's something he/she is interested in doing.
This is a very intimate activity when you involve your lover in your secret activity. It can be very exciting, so please don't keep it hidden away as a private activity, share it with the one you love or lust.
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Female Masturbation
Female masturbation techniques are numerous and perhaps more varied than those of males. They are influenced by a number of factors and personal preferences.
Techniques include stroking or rubbing of the vulva, especially the clitoris with her middle or index fingers, or even index and second fingers. This is pleasurable for most, especially when rubbing the breast and nipples at the same time. Sometimes one or more fingers may be inserted into the vagina to repeatedly stroke the frontal wall of the vagina where the G-spot is located. Masturbatory aids such as a vibrator, dildo or Ben Wa balls can also be used to stimulate the vagina and clitoris. Anal stimulation is also preferred by some because of the thousands of sensitive nerves located in the anus. Lubrication is sometimes used to facilitate masturbation, especially when penetration is involved.
Some prefer to masturbate in a bathtub, shower, or even hot tub by using warm running water to stimulate the clitoris; or others may straddle a pillow, stimulating the clitoris through the labia and clothing in a manner similar to frottage. Some reach orgasm by crossing their legs tightly and clenching the muscles in their legs, which creates friction. It could potentially be done in public without observers noticing.
Those who have difficulty reaching orgasm through sexual intercourse may find it easier to achieve an orgasm through masturbation.