Rekindling the Romance
One of the most common relationship problems couples complain of is the lack of romance in their relationship. Laura and I have faced this problem too. Like many things in life we take for granted, love and romance is one of them. We get so busy with our lives that we hardly notice. What we found is that you don’t always know it’s a problem until the romance and passion are gone.
The great thing about this relationship problem is that it is easily solved. You just need to do the things that you did when you first started dating each other. “But, that was easy back then, we didn’t have kids, or careers to manage.” Look, you were busy back then too. You just made the time and made each other a priority. If it’s important to you, you will make the time. The following are some basic things you can do to bring back that spark and rekindle the romance.
1. Having a romantic getaway is a great way of rekindling the romance in your relationship. This will help both of you to forget about the daily stress of life and to focus on each other. Laura and I took a trip to a State Park and spent the day walking and talking on the trails. It was beautiful to see all the nature and get back to basics. We felt so close to each other. Plus, no kids to interrupt! We all need that type of activity to recharge our “emotional batteries.” Couples especially need it to help them reconnect, maintain their relationship as a priority, and remember why they fell in love in the first place.
2. Another effective way of rekindling the romance is to simply start treating your sweetheart with respect. It’s easy to forget this one. But, think about it for a moment. How many times do you treat total strangers or acquaintances with more respect than your partner? You open up the door for little old ladies or let a pretty lady go first in line at the grocery store.
What’s up with that? I think men are more prone to this one. We think once we’ve “won” the girl we don’t have to work as hard (or not at all) to keep our woman happy. Try a little kindness and respect with your sweetie. Let her go first, or choose an activity she would like. You might just find a little more romance creeping back into your life.
3. Rekindling the romance can also get a jump start from trying something different, or exciting. It doesn’t have to be an extreme sport such as skydiving or surfing. Maybe you could try golfing or bowling together. If sports aren’t your thing, you might try camping or mountain climbing. Ballroom dancing is also enjoying a resurgence in popularity for couples. Find out what is exciting to your sweetie and explore it together. It might be exhilarating for you too, and help you both to reconnect and begin to rekindle your passion.
4. Another great way of rekindling the romance is to hold your sweetie’s hand. There is something so basic, so elemental about connecting with each other by this simple, yet profound act. It’s like two magnets being pulled together. I remember so vividly when I held Laura’s hand for the first time. I swear there was some kind of chemical reaction when we held hands together. It was like magic. Heck, we hadn’t even kissed yet and she had me. We still enjoy that connection when we take walks, or just sit down together.
5. Rekindling the romance in your relationship can get even better if you plan and participate in regular date nights. Planning is important because it lets her know you put some thought into it. Dress up and take her someplace nice. Surprise her and buy her a new dress for the occasion.
Have the childcare arrangements already in place, dinner reservations made, and maybe concert or movie tickets already in hand. Show her that you’re the man with the plan. Ladies love it when a man is prepared. Your preparations will make you appear confident. Women love confident men. You don’t always need to spend a lot of money, just put some thought into it. Maybe have some flowers waiting at the restaurant or a special card that you have made for her. Can you feel the fires of romance getting hotter? I sure can.
Five practical ways to help you get that blazing fire of romance.
6. Enhancing your personal appearance is another way to help rekindle to romance. If you let yourself get overweight, don’t brush or floss your teeth, keep on smoking like a chimney, and drink more beer than a brewery makes in a day, you might need to consider a makeover – read EXTREME MAKEOVER!
There are some very simple things you can do besides changing your bad habits, like: get a haircut, shave on a regular basis, start jogging or walking every day, lift some weights, brush and floss your teeth (go to the dentist, dude). Basically, just take care of yourself. If you do, you’ll find that you have a lot more confidence. I already told you how women like that.
7. Giving your sweetie sincere and well-timed compliments can also help in rekindling the romance. Women love to hear that they are beautiful or pretty. They spend a lot of time to get that way. So, of course, they love to hear that someone appreciates the work they put into it getting that way. It is also important to compliment them when they don’t look their best. It helps them to know you appreciate the person they are and not just when they get “all dolled up.”
8. Planning on taking trips or vacations together is an excellent way of rekindling romance. Spend a morning over coffee talking about places you would love to visit. Go on the internet and search for all the travel details. Look for nearby areas of interest that you can take an excursion to while in the area. This time together will draw you two closer together and help rekindle the romance.
9. Spending time alone with each other (no kids!) every day is a great way of rekindling romance. Turn off the TV, and the radio, and put down the paper in order to just spend time alone with your sweetie. Let her know that nothing else matters to you in that time you have together. Take at least 15 to 30 minutes to reconnect. Don’t let the kids interrupt. And, definitely do NOT answer the phone. It’s just you and her. Your time together is the only thing that matters during that time. Make every moment count.
10. If you have ever taken a bath with your sweetheart, you know that this is also an excellent way in rekindling the romance in your relationship. It is a very sensual, vulnerable act that helps to reconnect on a very intimate level. It doesn’t need to involve sex. In fact, the first few times you try it, you should not have sex in order to help build some emotional bonding and sexual tension between you.
The bath oil and slow methodical, non-sexual touching with help bring a sense of excitement to her and will eventually have her begging for love at the right time (She will make sure you know when that time comes). You will both feel the stress melt away and pampered as you make this a romantic ritual that you’ll want to do over and over again.
Rekindling the romance isn’t hard. If you have lost the fire of passion and romance in your life, you can get it back. If you still love her and are willing to do what it takes to romance her, you will find that the fire of romance and passion is not far away.
In conclusion, reigniting the romance in your relationship is a beautiful journey worth embarking on. By following the guide and implementing the suggested strategies, you have the power to breathe new life into your partnership and create a love that burns brightly once again. Remember that reigniting romance requires effort, patience, and a genuine desire to reconnect with your partner on a deeper level. Be open to exploring new experiences, communicate openly and honestly, prioritize quality time together, and never underestimate the power of small gestures. As you embark on this journey, be kind to one another, be forgiving of past mistakes, and always approach each day with a sense of adventure and curiosity. With dedication and a renewed focus on nurturing your love, you can create a relationship that is vibrant, passionate, and enduring. So, go forth and reignite the flame, for the beauty of your romance awaits.