Christian Dating Advice For Women
When it comes to dating, Christian singles can often be confused or worry about whether or not they’re doing the right thing to honor God.
The best Christian dating advice for women is not to feel pressured into doing anything they feel is against their beliefs. Don’t lower your standards to please a guy. He will have far more respect for you if you stick to your beliefs of no sex before marriage.
As a Christian woman, you may only want to date other Christians. Your church is one way to meet those of the same faith. Attending bible study classes or other events organized by your church are great places to meet like-minded people.
Meeting Christians online
Online dating is another great way to meet fellow Christians outside the church. Some years ago, it was advised for a Christian woman to avoid looking for men to date but wait until God sends his chosen soulmate for you. Christian dating sites have revolutionized how a woman of that faith can find suitable men to date.
Many dating sites cater to Christians, and most let you sign up as a free member. This allows you to view member profiles before upgrading to a paid membership. You will be required to fill out a membership form which will give you a chance to describe your beliefs as well as your interests and the type of guy you are looking for.
Take your time
Take your time getting to know your potential dates before you meet them. Do they share the same values as you? Are they genuine? Use video chat to meet up virtually.
Hearing a voice and seeing your potential date will help you decide if he is right for you. Share photos of family and friends to help build a picture of their life.
Discuss your faith and talk about your favorite passages in the bible. Ask him what his relationship with God means to him.
Start as friends
When you meet up for the first time, ensure it’s in a public place. The best advice is to start as friends – no matter what. Remember that the man you are dating could be destined for someone else. In today’s world there is much pressure to move too fast. The longer you maintain your friendship, the better off you will be when and if you decide to get married.
Should you kiss?
Some Christians say don’t kiss unless you’re engaged to be married. There are divided opinions on this, and if you follow Christian principles, you are told not to kiss, preferably until you are married.
Honoring your body is an important part of being Christian. Kissing, especially in the early stages of dating, can arouse your body and give you powerful tempting urges to take it further. Saving yourself until you are married will make it all the more special.
A guy won’t respect you for having sex with him, and it won’t make him commit to you. A man can have sex with a woman without having any feelings for her. He may lie in bed with you, but his mind may be on someone else. If a guy has true feelings for you, he will wait until you are married.
Double dates
Going on a double date will be a lot of fun and distract you from tempting physical issues. Cultural-based dates such as a trip to an art gallery or museum will get you both focusing on your mind and intellect. It will help him see the real you, not just your physical body. Always dress in a reasonably conservative way on your first few dates. Avoid wearing short skirts or revealing tops that show too much flesh.
Should you date a non-Christian guy?
What happens if you meet a non-Christian guy and want to date him? This can be a real predicament for a Christian woman. Should she get involved with him if he doesn’t share the same faith? The answer depends on the individual. Just because he doesn’t attend church with you shouldn’t be a barrier to happiness. Many people have Christian values but don’t pray to God in church.
It may work out if you share the same interests and enjoy doing the same things together. You may find yourself sharing Christian and non-Christians in your circle of friends, but as long as he believes in God and is a good and caring man, you may end up having a long and delighted relationship. Many men who marry Christian women find God and become Christians themselves.
So, there you have it, ladies: the ultimate guide to dating as a Christian woman. Remember to keep your standards high, your faith strong, and your sense of humor intact. Because let's face it, sometimes dating can feel like a rollercoaster ride – one minute you're up, and the next minute you're screaming for dear life. But as long as you keep your eyes fixed on the big man upstairs (no, not your 6'2" crush from church), you'll come out on the other side with a heart full of love and a few good stories to tell. And who knows, maybe one day you'll even find your Prince Charming, or at least a decent guy willing to split the bill. Happy dating, and may the Lord be with you (and your right swipes)!